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I believe that there is power in sharing the struggles that cleared the path for our triumphs. Here, I invite current and past clients, colleagues, and friends to share what they have learned on their journeys towards inner peace. All posts are anonymous and ONLY serve to encourage others on their own paths.   
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My Traumatic Journey

1/18/2024

 
First off, this is not scripted. I am not someone here to just post positives. My story and my troubles are my own and 100% truth. The path I chose to take, was the best decision I ever made. My most recent experience was the 4th different time, I have sought counseling, in the last 30 years of my life. I am currently 52 years old.
This most recent time however, was different. I came into it at the lowest point in my life. It seemed like I had a permanent black cloud above my head, and I was convinced that I do not deserve happiness or even contentment. I have had 2 immediate family members, pass on from suicide, and that’s just the tip of the iceberg with me. I was battling other demons as well. But I can honestly and 100% truthfully say, that the processes I went through in my most recent (and still current) therapy, has changed my life immensely. I no longer feel like I have this cloud.  I no longer have this despair that was taking over me. My therapist, within my first appointment, told me that my issues stemmed from “Trauma”. Post Traumatic Stress. I thought you could only get that in the military, or other fields where seeing trauma on a daily basis, created PTSD. So yes, I was skeptical. I have always been a skeptical person.

Then I was introduced to something by my therapist, that really made me skeptical. He explained it to me (several times), and I just kept thinking in my mind, that this was some type of hypnosis. He introduced me to A.R.T. (Accelerated Resolution Therapy). Now if you Google that, it will give you a bunch of medical terms and parts of the brain that do this and do that. So I of course, was like “Yeah….Right”. But in a nutshell, my therapist told me that this was a very effective treatment, that has had incredible success. Now, I am possibly the most stubborn person on this planet. I am also a creature of habit, and I don’t like trying new things. But the low that I was at, I simply said “whatever”. I’ll try anything at this point, as I was so bad. I never knew how low “Rock Bottom” really was.


After my first session of ART, I felt a bit of a hum in my head. It’s no medicines, no machines, no probes, nothing. He said he was going to use hand to eye movements and ask me questions. That’s when I was like, this is hypnosis. But it wasn’t. As skeptical as I was, the feeling I left that office with, that day, was staggering. I was living with several horrible traumas that have happened throughout my life. From childhood, all the way to adulthood. And I was stuck in what I call a “loop”. I was constantly replaying these traumas over and over in my head, one after another. And it was driving me into a depression I never knew I could feel. But there is absolute truth to this A.R.T process. We focused on just one of my traumas in session 1. After completing it, I left the office thinking to myself “OK, how long will this last”?  it’s been over 3 months since that first treatment, and I am still amazed at how these traumas, got pushed back into a part of my brain (my life), not to a point of forgetting them, but a point of where the “loop” was gone. I figured by the next day that loop would be back. It wasn’t. At that point, I was gaining more confidence. The process of A.R.T. almost seemed like a fantasy. And it’s not a treatment that is going to break your bank. These sessions were part of my weekly therapy sessions. They just went for about another 45 minutes longer than normal sessions.


Today, after 3 separate sessions of A.R.T., the 3 specifically focused traumas (as well as others), are still there, but they are stored in a place where I don’t think of them the way I used to. It doesn’t take them away. But where they are stored in my brain now, allows me to process what happened, without dwelling on the “traumatic” part of what happened. Instead, positive thoughts were implanted over those traumas. We even were able to do a session for my low self-esteem/self-confidence. I just can’t explain in words, what all this has done for me.


I now am in a good place. Not thinking I am in a good place. Knowing, I am in a good place. The troubles that led me to therapy are still there, but they reside in my rear-view mirror now. I honestly can say that I currently feel better now, then I have, in maybe my entire life. My issues began about 3 years old. My childhood was very rough. There was no love in my family’s home. It was all fighting, arguing and violence. Somehow from all of this I have gained “empathy” for the first time in my life. I never knew how that felt before. I would always just get angry and irritated. It unfortunately cost me my marriage of over 20 years, and almost destroyed my relationship with my daughter. I can honestly say now that the specific therapy I went through, was life changing. I am soooo grateful to my therapist and what he has done for me. I have a completely different outlook on life. With the biggest part being, that I want to live my life now. Something that I honestly wasn’t sure I wanted, just several months back.

​Just be accepting to it. It’s not going to work the same for everybody. It’s how YOU accept it into your life. Therapy is not brainwashing, or hypnosis. It’s about processing your thoughts, your emotions, and your feelings. It’s about dealing with trauma and the destructive effects it can have on a person. And it’s in a way that will help you lead a much more productive and happy life. I cannot stress enough how much better I am now, then a while back. If you are even thinking about getting therapy or help, it means you want to. Don’t wait. Do it! It’ll be the best decision of your life. Therapy and counseling can be had in so many mediums. You don’t have to have great health insurance or lots of money to get it. These people are for real. They have honed skills that are beyond daily comprehension. I know I am truly grateful for all that I have gotten.

January 09th, 2024

1/9/2024

 

Trauma: Let's Talk About It

Today I wanted to take a moment to discuss trauma. I'll define what it is (and isn't), describe how it affects our brains and, as a result, our lives. Finally, I'll make some recommendations on what to do with your trauma. Strap in because I'm bringing lots of useful info. Here we go!
  • Definition: 
    • Merriam-Webster (2023) tells us that the word trauma is Greek for 'wound'. It defines trauma as "1. An injury (such as a wound) to living tissue caused by an extrinsic agent. 2. A disordered psychic or behavioral state resulting from severe mental or emotional stress or physical injury. 3. An emotional upset. 4. An agent, force, or mechanism that causes trauma" (Merriam-Webster, 2023). These definitions speak for themselves. Whether physical or mental, a trauma is a wound. Yes, your brain and mental state can be wounded (we'll get to more on that in a moment). Many people don't even know what trauma is. I can't tell you how many times I've heard a patient tell me that they've never had the experiences that they've lived through described as trauma. So what is and isn't a trauma? Let's talk about it. 

  • What It IS:
    • The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual, 5th Edition (aka DSM-5, aka, the psychological bible) lists the following types of experiences as trauma: "exposure to war as a combatant or civilian, threatened or actual physical assault (e.g., physical attack, robbery, mugging, childhood physical abuse), threatened or actual sexual violence, being kidnapped, being taken hostage, terrorist attack, torture, incarceration as a prisoner of war, natural or human-made disasters, and severe motor vehicle accidents. For children, sexually violent events may include developmentally inappropriate sexual experiences without physical violence or injury. Medical incidents that qualify as traumatic events involve sudden, catastrophic events (e.g., waking during surgery, anaphylactic shock). Witnessed events include, but are not limited to, observing threatened or serious injury, unnatural death, physical or sexual abuse of another person due to violent assault, domestic violence, accident, war or disaster, or a medical catastrophe in one's child (e.g., a life-threatening hemorrhage). Indirect exposure through learning about an event is limited to experiences affecting close relatives or friends and experiences that are violent or accidental" (2013).

  • What It AIN'T: 
    • Whew...that was a lot of information. However, I think it is important to understand what trauma is so that we don't get it confused with what it isn't. Trauma isn't everyday stress. Anything not involving an immediate threat to life or physical injury isn't considered a trauma (i.e.: breakups, loss of job) (National Library of Medicine, 2017).     

  • It's Trauma and The Brain:
    • So now that we know what it is and isn't, why the hell does it seem like trauma has such a stronghold on our lives? Well, the short answer is that trauma literally changes the way your brain operates. I'll spare you the ENTIRE science lesson but feel free to see the resources section at the end of this email if you want more details. Here's the most important part: 
      • There's a section of your brain where your amygdala and hippocampus live (raise your hand if you just imagined hippos on a college campus...sorry...I...I got distracted). The amygdala plays a big part in controlling the 'fight, flight, or freeze' response that we all have on our factory default settings (Cleveland Clinic, 2023). The hippocampus's "largest job is to hold short-term memories and transfer them to long-term storage in our brains. It also plays a role in emotional processing, including anxiety and avoidance behaviors" (Wendt, T., Baby, M.D., D.P., 2022). When we experience trauma, the amygdala gets stuck in the 'on' position, making us feel flooded with all sorts of emotions. The hippocampus reacts by making sure you remember the trauma in as many ways as possible so that it can make sense of it all. However, since trauma is typically horrible, there is often no making sense of it,  causing our brains to go a bit haywire (Brainline, 2019). So, what does that look like? 
      • Symptoms: With a brain that isn't working like it normally would, there's going to be some negative effects. The DSM-5 lists intrusion symptoms such as "recurrent involuntary, and intrusive distressing memories of the event" (these are kind of like someone butting into your discussion with someone else). This can occur in the form of dreams, flashbacks, or in memories that just pop into your head without warning. Another sign of having been traumatized is avoidance of things that remind us of the trauma. Negative beliefs that make it difficult to trust others or to experience positive emotions may arise. Significant changes in how reactive we are to triggers might include irritability or angry outbursts, problems with concentration, or reckless behavior (i.e.: drug abuse or risky sexual behaviors) (American Psychiatric Association, 2013). 

  • Treatment Options: Treatment is not a 'one size fits all' sort of thing. Sometimes multiple interventions are needed in order to get to a place of healing. Here are some of the interventions that are available to treat trauma: 
    • Psychotherapy: A licensed therapist or social worker with experience and training in treating trauma is one route. In therapy, a person can learn tools to cope with negative emotions and triggers. Therapy typically involves discussing the details of the trauma and 'making sense' of it so that your brain can heal. Types of therapy that are known to be helpful with treating trauma include but aren't limited to Accelerated Resolution Therapy (ART), Trauma Focused Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (TF-CBT), Internal Family Systems (IFS), EMDR (Eye Movement Reprocessing and Desensitization), Brain Spotting, and others. Group therapy may also be included. 
    • Medication Management: A licensed physician or nurse practitioner can prescribe medications known to assist with decreasing negative symptoms associated with trauma. 
    • Body Focused Therapies: Physiotherapy, osteopathy, massage, acupuncture, reflexology, yoga, meditation, and tai chi can all be useful in treating or coping with symptoms associated with trauma by focusing on relaxation of the body. 

I hope that this information was informative and useful. Maybe you've learned that what you or someone you know has ACTUALLY been dealing with symptoms associated with trauma instead of just having a 'bad attitude' or many of the other assumptions that we sometimes make. If so, the next step is to begin your healing. Healing is a process, and it takes time and grace. Be kind to yourselves as you embark on your own journey. 
 

Resources:
  • Merriam-Webster, Incorporated. (2023). Trauma. https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/trauma
  • American Psychiatric Association. (2013). Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Disorders, 5th Edition.
  • National Library of Medicine. (2017, Feb. 13). Posttraumatic Stress Disorder in the DSM-5: Controversy, Change, and Conceptual Considerations. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5371751/#:~:text=Stressful%20events%20not%20involving%20an,considered%20trauma%20in%20this%20definition
  • Cleveland Clinic. (2023). Amygdala: What It Is And What It Controls. https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/body/24894-amygdala 
  • Wendt, T., Baby, M.D., D.P. (2022, Sept. 1). The Hippocampus: What To Know. https://www.webmd.com/brain/hippocampus-what-to-know
  • BrainLine. (2019, May 6). How PTSD Affects the Brain. https://www.brainline.org/article/how-ptsd-affects-brain#:~:text=Your%20hippocampus%20is%20a%20lot,doesn't%20get%20coded%20correctly.

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