I Can’t Control Everything (And That’s Okay)

Honestly, my wife and I were very unaligned about church. She wanted us to be aligned and attend the same church, and I was basically fine with us going to two different ones. At the time I didn’t really see why it mattered so much to her. That tension is what pushed me to therapy. 

It was a lot less formal than I expected. Mostly it was just talking through things and realizing patterns in how I think. The biggest thing that came up was how much I want to control outcomes in life—career, family, decisions, the future. I didn’t even realize how much that mindset was driving my reactions. It helped me see that a lot of my stress comes from trying to control things that just aren’t controllable. The future is uncertain.

​Life moves in ways you can’t plan for. Once I started accepting that, things got lighter. I learned that the real battle isn’t external. It’s internal. The conversations I have with myself—how I interpret things, how I react to uncertainty—that’s what actually shapes my life. Not the situation itself. It’s not about someone fixing you. It’s about understanding how your own mind works. Once you see that a little more clearly, you start handling life differently